Nigerian activist, Lolo Cynthia Ihesie, has taken to Instagram to express her disappointment after finding out that her parent circumcized her when she was three months old.
According to the former Rave TV presenter, she didn’t know about it until she was teaching her younger sisters about Female Genital Mutilation (FGM). There and then, her parents admitted to subjecting her to female circumcision.
Prior to the revelation, she had always tried to explain the look of her organ using natural phenomena.
“At 3 months old, my family cut out my clitoral head (FGM1) because they didn’t want me to grow up to be promiscuous,” she wrote.
“This was never disclosed to me until I was an adult whilst I was educating my younger sisters about FGM and its implications.
“Naturally, I am curious about my body and I teach about sex and pleasure- I noticed that I didn’t have a clitoral head but never wanted to believe that it was due to FGM.
“I assumed I just didn’t have a thick clitoral tissue even though direct stimulus to the clit hurts and I need to work around the clitoris to find my pleasure spot since the external tissue where most of the pleasure spot is located was cut.
“I feel violated and incredibly hurt by this discovery but at the end – It has given me insight as to why I am where I am and why my message about violation against women is important to me.
Lolo Cynthia went on to reveal that it is a common practice in Igbo land and urged women to ask their parents if they were circumcised as well.
“I am an Igbo girl and this is common in Igbo land. My mother said it was done to every girl she knows including her – mothers did it to their daughters.. some still do.
“I encourage you to speak to your mothers and ask if they cut you or go to a gynecologist to inquire.
“I share this because I need other young girls to see that FGM does not define us or our sexuality. We deserve pleasure! You can work with your body to learn what gives you that pleasure no matter what!